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when a girl says she needs space how long

    when a girl says she needs space how long

    Funny how when I busted her lieing cheating ass getting out of some other dudes car at the bar you should of seen her face. But last week but one I had an emergency and I asked for her help and she told me she cant be of help right now so I was all cool but then she said ive been thinking about it all along and cant support me at all and that she needs a break up. Be careful here as she may be trying (perhaps unconsciously) to manipulate you into doing something she wants but you dont, and thinks she can get Heres where you could go to contact a coach. Apollonia. But then after a counseling session she told me she needed some space to process her feelings/emotions. Best, Her ex-husband literally waited out the 2yrs where he had no choice but to sign. and she replied thank you and to take care of yourself always. Apollonia. Im trying to stay busy by working as much as I could. The next day she said that shes not in a good head space (understandable from going through a break up + what we just did), and she said that she needs space for a little awhile. Since the start of our relationship I bee overly affectionate. And im needy too. Is there a chance I can fix this? I am not 100% sure but this is just a guess from your comment. It whas all sweet and i woke up with goodmorning messages everyday and night but slowly it became less as ive felt ive became an lil needy to her and now she just told me she needed some space cause of how much we talked whats the best thing i can do now? WebIf she says, "I need space." She said she loves me but confused about me.then we had some short arguments. It is very painful mam. Let her come to you when shes ready. Best, From that point forward she began to get down on herself, she started to state that it isnt fair to me that Im not getting the amount of love and attention I deserve. Right now, I believe not bringing this up and focusing more on you will be the key to getting her back. We havent texted all day and I just dont know what to do or how to feel. 2 weeks ago she told me she want us to make a pause, I think she actually needed space, so thats what I gave her. When I tell her I love her she responds its OK. Tried reaching out to her, hung out once, went for a function together, plead with her, called, texted but she still insists I respect her wish and give her a break. She has to see the value in the relationship with you first. Best of luck and take care! Which has now caused this issue that she said she wants to be on her own she doesnt know what she wants, she just said she doesnt feel like herself anymore. Apollonia, Hello, i just want to know why my girlfriend want me to give her time to think and space, breathe better because she was seeing someone after i said hurtful stuff to her youre not wifey material when i was angry when i said that but i didnt meant it to said to her.. Now she started to seeing someone else.. my heart is broken.. What can i do now? I love my ex so much and we are amazing together and both agree we have something truly unique, wonderful and give each other happiness. It was clear we wanted the relationship to lead to marriage. Best, Apollonia Ponti is a ICF certified coach, speaker, and the #1 international dating and relationship expert in the world who specializes, Read More Dating Coach For Men Apollonia PontiContinue, Are you having a difficult time attracting the girl you are desiring right now? https://www.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching-2/ Im now doing the no contact rule and its been a week since her last text about my letter and havent heard back since. I have helped many couples overcome fidelity so you are in the right spot. I believe I can really add value to your relationship and help you out right now. She also became my best friend and i got really close to her kids. We then linked back up twice and after her realizing how much she forgot how I treated her (queen). now 4 days after last contact . So, enjoy a couple of days of solitude. Due to my busy schedule if you want more advice from me I would be happy to get on a coaching call with you! | Terms of service |Policy|About|Contact Us. Best, were in her space time. She also bright me around her family on Christmas and told her mom how shes so serious about me and ready to spend the New Years with me. And then we had a fight not anything huge but she then asked for space I would step back and let her come to you. Best, If she feels she doesn't want to meet you for a week, you agree. Again, someone who doesnt fully love themselves, cant love someone else, not yet. I just want her back and her to trust me again? Idk what went wrong and she wont tell me What should I do? I feel badly that I have affected her and want to see her feeling less stressed and happy. I admit I have been down in my spirits a lot and become negative and it has affected her. Ive begged and apologized for doing nothing. Best, Or she thought you ignored her. Hello apollonia, I just came across your form here about space and i really wanted some insight On my situation. I invite you to reach out to me for a session as I would like to get more information about the relationship in order to give you exact advice and get her back. I left her house because i felt like she didnt want me their anymore. Maybe go to the room and read a book and wait for her to come to you. I would advise getting this program to take it a step further click here. And she wants to spend her life with me and she is completely sure of it. hi August, If you compliment her and she says thank you with no emotion behind it or just smiles and never really takes anything from it, then its time that you stop giving her these compliments until she begins to appreciate them. She says she loves me & wants our marriage but wants to take it slow. When I got home last night from a minor mishap, she took her kids and some of her belongings with them and I didnt know. After about an hour of seeing each other, she sent me a text asking if I wanted to have dinner. I stayed in contact with her and now she is telling me she needed space. The last 2 months or so have been very hard. Hi Russel, Shes told me she needs space, which Ive been pretty awful at giving her that until now. Now i do want to marry her however the kids part is something yes i want but i also want her which i value more right now. I have a feeling she Pershing her feeling from the talk before Christmas but why would she say shes so comfortable with me and willing to share anything with me to only counter dictate her own words. We dont have as much sex as before because we both still live with our parents and in the process of getting our own apartment. She said that if she keeps going like this its only going to hurt me more and she just cant allow that to happen to me. She texte me later that night that she is thinking about what she went through in her past relationship and told me that she has a lot fears and anxieties. I planned a camping trip in California and we got away just the two of us in a tent no cell service and just spending quality time in the tent at 8,000ft. I know that she cares and loves me and I told her that I would respect her to give her the time and space. If she felt that you were suffocating her. I dont want to be there nor am I sticking around while she tries out a few partners. I had been with my girlfriend for 3.5 years. I see her stories around. Let her work on her own things, we cannot change or fix anyone. is this a matter of give her time and space, or do you think it could be possibly steming from something else? Afterwards we were still good and would talk. Thanks for your support and reading my blogs and watching my videos. Last 2 months we had some issues and kept fighting and I felt this relationship does not make me complete so 2 days after she left my country I broke up with her. It sounds like you both need space to work on yourself and what your values and standards are and for her, her learning how to love herself and not look outside of the relationship. She wants to here me out about what I have to say about things from the past, present and future. But i felt that she doesnt have any feelings for me. When someone gaslights you, Read More Gaslighting In A Relationship: The 5 Signs Of Gaslighting & How To Stop It!Continue, Have you heard about the fearless women who is transforming and impacting hundreds of thousands of mens lives all across the globe and taking the relationship industry by storm? Apollonia. My GF of 9 months has asked for a break. Ive found the content really insightful and Ive started to implement some of it. Hi apollonia, Ive been with this girl for about 3 months and recently, I knew she was going through a tough time and I wanted to talk to her after school, she ignored me and started walking home so I walked with her and tried talking to her about it, I do feel like I was trying a little too hard and Im worried because she said she needed space and that she didnt need a relationship right now, we eventually got to her house and she told me she was going through alot and she slammed the door in my face. Your happiness is YOUR responsibility. If you dont you will push her away or end up back here again after a couple of months. I have these negative thoughts about her not wanting to be with me anymore, or there being someone else in the picture but I know neither of these are true remembering the great times weve had and the emotions weve shared; also Im almost positive there isnt someone else in the picture, because she MADE time for me, shes very busy and driven and she decided that I could be in her life. Hi my girlfriend and I have been dating awhile now. I got in to a serious relationship with someone who had been separated for a year, but only signed the paperwork 1 month prior to dating me she has a 5 year old and 1 year old. Hope this helps and hope to hear from you soon! thats her mother told her)my gf say she feels bad,beacuse 1 side its me and in another side is her mother.its not only that.her brother also doesnt want me because is racist with my nationality .tha why told me she need time to think and other stuffs.i send her text before 15 days what she doing .and she text me . I honestly can say that I want to marry her and have family and all. What do I do? We went through some stormy weather from the beginning which made me realize we can get through anything. Hey hows it going do my issue is the girl I been dating for 2 months we went through a small rough patch She asked for space last Wednesday and I gave it to her did the no contact rule I even reflected on my self on what I did wrong which was I was a little pushy and persistent with certain things. Im still trying my best to not contact her but its getting really hard for me to not contact her. Please use this time to focus on you and things youd like to accomplish for yourself. So I really dont know what to do? Later on that day her ex husband popped up and thats the first time I met him which everything was civil between us and was ok with me being there. But I also know she wouldnt cheat on me or anything, the same how I would not do that to her (shes been cheated on by her previous BFs). Am lost. I know that she trying to get somebody from tinder, I saw photos from her date 2 days ago. I try to have a conversation with her and shes on her phone reading articles. Me and my girlfriend were in a relationship for last 1 year and recently she said she doesnt love me anymore hence i just recently moved to FL from ATL a year ago. My girl had feelings for someone else and when I found out she begged me to stay. I want her back but dont want to force it or appear like I dont care. I would stop contacting and do the no contact here. Both of our divorces were finalized few months ago at the same time and the reason it took so long was because of COVID. Heres my situation: I actually suffered from depression, and during that time my girlfriend of 4 years was working one city away from where I am. I want to thank you for this tips. When we meet one night to talk. I really love her from the bottom of my heart. Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse that can have long-term consequences for the victim. Ive been overwhelmed by my job and college, and one night she really needed me and I wasnt there for her because I told her I wouldve probably been no help. Find Ive known her for about two and half months and weve havent been Abel to stay away from each other for more than two days. I asked her if she was breaking up with me and she said no. A good female friend of mine has asked me to give her space so she an clear her head and have some me time. At first it was her messaging me and telling me she didnt want to get back with my ex due to how she treated me, then she didnt want me to get hurt and then making statements like she didnt want to meet her or allow her to her home. she did come visit me and we spent time together and it was awkward but still enjoyed each others company. Let her reach out to her. Hi Apollonia this is an interesting one. And Shall i keep on ignoring her and keep zero contact to allow her to restore her mental health and appreciate me again? Kumar. She says that she expects so much from me but I am already moving mountains and going above and beyond. Join: 5 days ago Funny how when I busted her cheating ass getting out of done other dudes car at the bar you should of seen her face. She let me know she was in a mood and I asked why never responded. The way we as men should communicate during space. A week will be this Monday. She told me that she wont leave me, just give her the time to breath. Know your boundaries and remember, your happiness is your responsibility and her happiness is hers. All of a sudden she said she wants to be alone at the moment and can only handle her life we both had a lot of stress lately her with dealing with debts and working a lot of the time and me with my children Ive given her space no calls or texts I do bump into her at work most days and she does still talk to me at work I do love this woman very much and want to make us work again please can you help, Hi Jeremy, However, I dont know how to proceed. She has PTSD and to be honest if it had not been for her meltdowns, show of vulnerability and openness towards me (e.i. Apollonia. This is a less serious relationship question as Ive only been seeing this girl for almost 3 months. This reassures the person that its not about them its about meeting your own needs. A divorce is a life-changing event and it is hard to understand and accept no matter how old we are. The problem seems to be that she is overwhelmed by everyday life with work and the kids and everything, at least that is what she told me, but I dont know if the problem is deeper than that. My long-distance girlfriend of ~2 months (have been talking for over a year now, I live in KCMO and she lives in MT but travels a lot) is a personal trainer as well as starting her own apparel brand, and can do neither of those from her home. She suffers from severe depression and told me she was starting to feel depressed. Best, She said she misses me but is enjoying spending time with a couple of her female friends and does not want to see me all the time. But Id rather her in my life than not. My Girlfriend for just under a year has asked to be on her own, we were very much in love but circumstances changed a few months back and I had to move back with my parents so was going round to her shared accommodation with flat mates. She replied to me saying No! So i say can we please talk and explain why you dont want to be with me anymore. We had our introduction late November and surprisingly, after a late night phone argumen (was calling her and she was on a call for so long that unlike her, she will cut or call me back but she didnt, I was crossed). We just celebrated our anniversary last month. Remember, when there is no wind in your sails, row! Best, Please book a session here. I cant help but think someone else is involved or she really needs to just give us time. She wonder she will have to leave her life there, she an artist, she can draw here, but you know, sell the car, leave the house, been apart form her family etc. I also noticed that she was becoming more distant and cold, but we still did things like go eat and go shopping. Everything was great! I do not text her constantly I only text her to see if she wants to do something or a reply to her texts. You want space, your using the vehicle that I said you could use, as for how long u need because of the kids, and we still have our checks in the same account and use them. Now that she told me that am scared of loosing her. I know how hard this can be and Im so sorry are you able to get a coaching session with us so we can go into this more with you and guide you through this? Am I too nice? I believe right now you should not be available if a woman is going to give her time to another man on your watch. But last night, she said that shes not sure anymore, and that she needs some space. Its important to have a conversation about what you both need and work out what the ideal is for you both. Made plans for that week. Best of luck with everything and please let us know if there is anything else we can do to help. She said it had only been 2 weeks and if Im expecting any hope right now the answer would be no. This blog will answer your questions. Thank you! It sounds like there was nothing in this relationship that she did or you did to not contact her. Furthermore, if a woman is being emotional and is doing this for attention, this is your time to ask her to dig a little deeper into her insecurities and to figure it out and fix it because you cannot play these games with her. This is tough though. Today my girlfriend told me to that she needs space in order to breath. About a month ago she asked me for spacethough we keep making plans and she keeps calling and texting. If you need to talk anything out, Im here. And you have to remind yourself of that its just going to take time, but you know it will happen so just go slow. I have dated enough to know shes very genuine and honest person and a wonderful girl. Recently she said to me that, she thought, there was a possibilty that I didnt see us as a serious thing. I have tried to talk to her but she tell me she needs some space or rather sometimes to think over what she has gotten her life into. I am not telling you to ignore your feelings for this woman and move on. Im not convinced its going anywhere though which is tough because I care about her a lot. Hello Benjamin, thank you for reading When she says she needs space, heres what to do! In order to get advice pertaining to your situation, I would encourage you to book a coaching session with her so she can help. If you feel called to work with me I encourage you to reach out. There might be a disconnect, or she might not have the same feelings for you. Focus on your hobbies, your life, building that up and fulfilling that. Just nice an easy and see where it goes, or do i push against the door a little to see what might be behind it? But a couple months later she got kicked out and had no other place to go so I told her she can move in with me at my parents house in the meantime. Work out 2 times a day. Lj, Other women is not a problem, I could have somebody here with me in a heartbeat but what this woman has done for me and the love she has shown me I have never felt or received. Thanks for all the other useful information though. Best, But she cannot leave her job now, it is really important for her. What should be my reply to that? Last week she found love texts of another girl in my phone. She stated she needed time to refocus. I asked if she had any interest in meeting any one new or was talking to someone. I started dating my girlfriend 7 weeks ago. Should I not go to the same community run any more? Shes in her mid 40s and Im older than her and trust her. She got out of 5 year relationship last October. She was working 12 hour shifts in the hospital and doing overnights and would tell me how bad it is on her body and so I talked to her and asked is there anyway to switch to a different shift or ask for light work duty so it isnt hard on her body etc. She told me she wasnt afraid and its true she didnt care until she kept thinking about it and it felt wrong. Im still at a loss here and Ill tell you everything. Next i said i am really very sorry. Best, She initiated sex as well as nicknames and any kid of intimacy. So while I was in there she came to visit me with my family that she got to meet, we would talk on the phone everyday, when money was low she would send it for phone calls, we made plans to move in together with the kids, she was going to help out on focusing on what I had to do to progress, she was just great! We ended up going out to drink 3 days later and she told me she wasnt happy and cried a little bit. Thank you for your comment. What do you think? We went on many dates and even took a little getaway together for a weekend and we were both happy, we were even almost to the point of saying we loved each other. Hey Richard, you might have put her on a pedestal too fast and you got attached without taking the time to really get to know her. A few days after that, she reached out and we began to try to fix things. During this time find some things that will bring you happiness, keep busy, and work on the reasons why you may be overbearing. A week later, i was invited to her house by her cousin (my friend) so we can drop off a b-day gift for her sister. Apollonia. Its not been 2 months Of us trying to figure it out and basically for her to see if she wants to make it work. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years and weve had our ups and downs (I broke up with her for 6 weeks about 2 years ago because we didnt seem happy like we used to). We would argue about it. Here is the bigger picture of this all. https://www.apolloniaponti.com/OvercomeNeedinessSeminar She feels uncertain about the relationship, she said that she felt something growing as we spent more time together, but after I changed she started to feel nothing, as shes feeling now, is there still hope to rekindle the relationship? You were correct! She responded with Ill let you know when Im ready. My team and I provide one on one coaching so we can give you individual guidance on your situation. I have a workethic problem and is hard for me to keep a job longer than 6 months at a time we have 2 kids. Apollonia. I am not even on social media and viewing her stories or anything..I actually took time away from social media and keeping myself preoccupied..Any suggestions? Filled with regrets, 3 days later we were together again and then ended up breaking up for good. In the meantime, focus back on yourself! Hello Christopher, I didnt say anything or hit her up at all because Im pretty sure its a test. Thank you in advance for any advice you may have for me, I love her so much and i dont want to lose her. She also said she needs more time to heal from the damage of our relationship. We did went to a zoo as a date in these two weeks and that went really well (also according to her). We have a trip planned for this January which is paid for in advance. Thank you for sharing your story, Her profile pic on fb was still up along with my comments saying how pretty she was and her reply of thank you honey bunz followed by kissy emojis so I have her a couple days and I pushed more than she unfriended me and stopped following me on all social platforms but profile pic is still up with the comments. I tried to play it cool without texting her for the time being. cuz she took stand for me in evry worst situation and now i know i made mistake after seeing ur videos and articles will she ever initiate call or text or it jus over from her side??? When we talked I was calm and honest with her. Now suddenly due to her career and family pressure, she is getting off our relationship. When she figures it out you will still be there but in the meantime look for something better. I have initiated contact the last 2 days and she did twice as well which I kept short. She calls me just about everyday & we talk. She immediately stopped saying I love you and did not want to see me at all. Now shes wants no benefits, but still initiates contact a couple of times a week. when I asked what these was I was told again that she was worried that I didnt take my medical condition seriously and that also she is scared to have kids etc she then also mentioned this whole naming kids again and that she didnt want to name them anything like we agreed on (wants to give kids English names where we agreed on Greek) which confused me a lot as these were all her ideas. I really appreciate your time and help. But Im losing my mind. She recently went back on her anti-depressants for her test anxiety a couple weeks ago and just stopped it cold turkey recently without telling her doctor she went back on it and when she stopped it abruptly without tapering. The way you come up on top is to focus on you only. I have been trying to keep everything positive and encourage her with her work struggles which in her own way appreciates it, but I am not clear what is happening. I cant bring this up with her, for obvious reasons. Knowing she down stairs at the front desk. The interesting part is that she has remained friends with her ex and sees him frequently as part of a wider friendship group. She hasnt blocked me yet on any social platform.

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